Posted on: January 8, 2013
I’ve just returned from New Orleans, where M had an interview. On the first day, while she interviewed, I wandered around the French Quarter looking for lunch and a drink. On suggestion from the desk at the cute, rustic boutique hotel we stayed in, I went to a place called Stanley’s in Jackson Square for their Stanley’s Eggs-which was Eggs Benedict topped with Nawlins fried oysters.
Oh yeah, it was a treif trip. More on what I ate later.
After my treiftastic eggs, coffee and mimosa I wandered around the Quarter and the surrounding neighborhoods by myself. While I understand that judging New Orleans based on the Quarter is like judging NYC based on Times Square, it still had a warm feeling. As I walked on the outskirts of the Quarter on the quieter streets I felt at ease, I felt comfortable, I felt like I could live there.
Around 2 PM M returned to our hotel and we both agreed we could live here.
We spent the next few days walking around the neighborhoods of New Orleans, looking at real estate prices, and researching the Jewish community. And while the Jewish community seems to be small, but mighty, the idea of being a black, gay Jewish woman in New Orleans is frankly incredibly scary. Especially when you’re a black, gay Jewish woman who wants to start a family.
For starters, New Orleans is the only city in Louisiana that has same-sex domestic partnerships…and that’s it. Nothing else happening down there. They don’t recognize same-sex marrriages from other states. Hell, you can get fired in the state based on sexual orientation. There’s no second-parent adoption, and no rights for LGBTQ individuals. The list goes on and on…and on and on.
So why are we thinking about it? First, there are greater opportunities (big fish, small pond). It’s more affordable, year-round gardening, small-town feel, and the idea that we can really make an impact are all really attractive. Schools are also a lot more affordable and I’m thinking about returning to school as well. Oh, did I mention how affordable it is?
So are we moving to New Orleans? I’ll follow up in February.