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Orthodox: To be or not to be…that is the question

Posted by: erika on: January 13, 2013

While enjoying my first glass of wine at a bar in La Guardia Airport before my flight to New Orleans last week I got a Facebook message that I both expected and was surprised by. A friend who’d gone through the conversion process with me, currently living in one of the most Jewish neighborhoods in […]

Ask Erika: Orthodox? Reform? Conservative? Just Jewish.

Posted by: erika on: August 29, 2012

Receiving e-mails from you is one of the best things of this “job”. I don’t, in any way, consider myself an expert in conversion or Judaism. I started writing this blog to get my thoughts about conversion, Judaism, race, identity, etc. out of my head and into a safe space. I hoped that people would […]

jumping in the deep end

Posted by: erika on: May 31, 2011

Tomorrow is my last conversion class and I’m in a constant state of excitement and nervousness.  Since October Wednesday night has been my anchor, my safety net, my Jewish safe-space, my haven, my rock.  For two hours each Wednesday night for the past several months I’ve sat in the same chair around the same table […]

Never, ever read the comments…

Posted by: erika on: May 25, 2011

I always have to remind myself that.  Lucky for me, I screen comments that come along and all of you frequent commenters are amazing.  I still get a little pit in my stomach when I see a new comment alert on my Blackberry until I recognize the name and the pit fades away. Yesterday the Conservative […]

Wait…You’re not a Jew yet?!

Posted by: erika on: May 23, 2011

“Nope, not a Jew yet.” “Well, how long does it take?” “It depends, really, usually at least a year.” “So, how do they make you a Jew?” Only a few days after pouring through Chicago Carless’ blog I found myself in that converation at work yesterday.  Two months ago my sister asked the same thing, “You’re […]

Hebrew Tutor-FOUND!

Posted by: erika on: May 19, 2011

I don’t have a date for my conversion, though I’ve been reading about my blogger buddy Mike Doyle’s conversion on his blog for days.  If you are in the process of converting, thinking about converting, or just snooping around because you maybe kinda perhaps want to convert READ HIS POST.  Feel free to click around […]

Kosher That Works For Me

Posted by: erika on: April 28, 2011

In conversion class we’re studying Jewish Texts; Talmud, Mishnah, Torah, etc.  Chatting about “putting a fence around the Torah” inevitably turned into a discussion on kashrut, that caused us to run late (again).  I challenged Rabbi K. about why she makes the decision to keep kosher; why eat only kosher foods when she could eat organic […]

The Tale of Two Shabbats

Posted by: erika on: April 9, 2011

A few hours ago observant Jews around the world concluded Shabbat with a havdalah service which marks the end of Shabbat.  I’ve never observed this prayer service but I’ve seen it done in the movie Trembling Before God.  There are candles and wine, of course, but also spices.  Blessings are said and the flame of […]


Posted by: erika on: March 12, 2011

It’s so interesting blogging here because it looks the same in so many ways and in so many ways it’s very different.  Wednesday night was my last night of conversion class until April.  Rabbi S. lead our conversion students chat before hand and asked us, very generally, what was going on in our lives and […]

How do you Jew?

Posted by: erika on: March 3, 2011

I’m well, how do you Jew? Hahaha!  Okay, bad joke but I thought it was pretty funny in a really corny way.  I was sitting on the subway early this morning leaving Mirs’ doing what I normally do on the subway-Praying.  I don’t know why I’ve taken to doing it on the subway, it’s not exactly […]

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