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Ask Erika: Orthodox? Reform? Conservative? Just Jewish.

Posted by: erika on: August 29, 2012

Receiving e-mails from you is one of the best things of this “job”. I don’t, in any way, consider myself an expert in conversion or Judaism. I started writing this blog to get my thoughts about conversion, Judaism, race, identity, etc. out of my head and into a safe space. I hoped that people would […]

What To Expect at the Mikvah

Posted by: erika on: April 15, 2012

One of my friends has a mikveh date scheduled for late April/early May.  She asked me few questions and expressed some hair concerns so I thought I’d write another “What To Expect” post.   ~One of the most shocking parts of the Deborah Feldman book wasn’t the scandalous rejection of her hasidic roots, it was […]

How Do You Make a Jew?

Posted by: erika on: March 1, 2012

Ingredients Needed: Kevanah Rabbis (3) Mikveh Books Time (unlimited amounts) Dedication Patience Patience Patience


Posted by: erika on: August 17, 2011

  I’ve been up since 4:15 AM when my cell phone beeped, a message alert from my mother.  I opened it up and looked at my new nephew, Jacob, born a few moments prior.  G-d truly is wonderful.  I feel blessed to share my Jewish birthday with my newest nephew, whom I named.  In 2 […]

Tomorrow is J-Day

Posted by: erika on: August 16, 2011

I have no words.  See you on the other side 🙂

Three Days

Posted by: erika on: August 14, 2011

Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday I will be Jewish. On my last conversation with my rabbi, she asked me to reflect this Shabbat.  I didn’t attend shul on either day but attended Shabbat dinner with friends.  Shabbat didn’t feel particularly different than other Shabbats (sound a bit like Pesach?) No one could see what made that particular […]

Tikkun Olam

Posted by: erika on: August 11, 2011

I’ve just finished Rabbi Joseph Telushkin’s book Hillel-If Not Now, When and have been inspired by more than a few passages.  One of them is Tikkun Olam, a basic Jewish colloquialism that Hillel instituted over two thousand years ago.  As Jews (look at me) we have the responsibility of Tikkun Olam, to repair the world. […]

One Week

Posted by: erika on: August 10, 2011

This time next week I will be Jewish.  I’m not quite sure how to wrap my head around it, actually.  It’s not like I didn’t know that this day would come, I’ve been planning for this day for over a year.  Still, it’s seems so giant-and so incredibly small.  Who cares? For all intensive purposes […]

9 Days/The Ninth of Av/Tisha B’Av

Posted by: erika on: August 8, 2011

“…The saddest day in Jewish History is the Ninth of Av…On this day the Babylonians destroyed the First Temple in 586BCE and the Romans burned down the Second temple in 70CE…During the Holocaust, the Nazis took pleasure in organizing murderous actions against the Jewish community on the ninth of Av…” – Jewish Literacy by Rabbi Joseph […]

12 Days and a Video

Posted by: erika on: August 5, 2011

The G-d Project is traveling around the US talking to Jews about G-d and Judaism and Jewish experience.  About a month ago they were in NYC and I sat down with them to chat.  My video is on their website, but you can watch it here.  Make sure to follow them on Twitter and Facebook […]

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