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What Do I Wear on My Head?-A Cross-Post

Posted by: erika on: February 21, 2015

When I was still in the process of converting to Judaism I found Jew in the City and her post about why Orthodox Jewish women cover their hair. The vlog didn’t speak to me. I don’t have a husband and I don’t find hair to be particularly sexual. Yet, I was intrigued and clicked my […]

Orthodox: To be or not to be…that is the question

Posted by: erika on: January 13, 2013

While enjoying my first glass of wine at a bar in La Guardia Airport before my flight to New Orleans last week I got a Facebook message that I both expected and was surprised by. A friend who’d gone through the conversion process with me, currently living in one of the most Jewish neighborhoods in […]

The Mitzvah of Mikvah

Posted by: erika on: August 14, 2012

Tablet’s Allison Hoffman wrote an amazing piece about Mikvah today that has me thinking about which mitzvot we, as secular Jews, embrace and those we do not. Mikvah is one of those that I wish I could embrace in a  more regular way similar to Orthodox women…it just seems unnatural. I’m not heterosexual, therefore laws […]

How Jewish is Your Home?

Posted by: erika on: August 3, 2012

We’re currently planning a house warming party complete with a Chanukat Ha’Bayit to be performed by a friend and awesome  rabbi. In talking last night we pondered the ethics of performing any sort of religious ceremony in a home that isn’t owned by us. Our landlord is not Jewish so is it unethical to make […]

One Year Jewish Birthday

Posted by: erika on: July 3, 2012

On August 17, 2011 I boarded the C Train at Nostrand in Bedstuy, Brooklyn and made my way to the Upper West Side. I had butterflies in my stomach and my legs felt as if they weighed one ton each. I’d forgotten to eat and by the time I willed my bricks-for-legs from Central Park […]

What to Expect at a Seder

Posted by: erika on: March 16, 2012

Disclaimer:  I am, in no way shape or form an expert on Judaism.  There are a wide variety of resources for Jewish thought, holidays, traditions.  I’m just one Jewish woman sharing my thoughts and reflections on my personal experiences.  This post does not reflect what you will find at the most traditional Pesach Seders.  If […]

Do We Really Know What Gd Wants?

Posted by: erika on: March 14, 2012

“I always distrust people who know so much about what God wants them to do to their fellows.” -Susan B. Anthony As a social media personality you have access to a wide array of people.  People who agree with what you’re doing and people who don’t and while I don’t hope that everyone will agree […]


Posted by: erika on: October 30, 2011

**Apologies to everyone who follows me on Facebook and has already gotten this information. ** I want to do a mitzvah project for Hanukkah.  In case you didn’t know, New York City and many other cities in the North East decided to dress up like Winter for Halloween.  In NYC, we got about three inches of snow, most of […]

“Pushing forward and arching back…”

Posted by: erika on: September 23, 2011

Today is the last Shabbat of the year.  When I read that on one of my friend’s Facebook page a few minutes ago I couldn’t believe it.  Sure, I know that Rosh Hashanah is just around the corner, but I didn’t realize that it was so close.  I’ve been completely wrapped up in Israel and […]

Mezuzah Verdict is In

Posted by: erika on: April 6, 2011

According to Rabbi K. I will need to have 4 mezuzah on my exterior doors and 3 mezuzah on my interior doors.  Minus the 2 I already have that is a total of 5 new mezuzah that I will be purchasing.  Can I get another Oy vey!  I had a sneaking suspicion that she’d tell […]

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